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→☺нσώ γσυ çαη тεll γσυя βεšŧ çlσšε ƒгίεηđ γσυ Ł♥νε

There is little in life
that is more
frustrating that
having deep
feelings for
someone who
you're "just
friends" with. And
there is little that
is more frightening
than to consider
revealing those
feelings to your
friend because you
run the risk of
jeopardizing the
friendships. For
that reason, it is
important to think
carefully before
telling your friend
that you're in love.
It is also important
to prepare
emotionally once
you've made the
decision that
you're going to
communicate your
feelings to your
friend. And finally,
you'll need to find
the right way to
tell your friend to
ease the
awkwardness of
the situation.
First things first,
make sure that
you really want to
tell your friend
about your
feelings. Are you
certain that you're
in love? Do you
want to tell your
friend because you
are hoping that
your revelation will
lead to a
relationship? Or is
this a situation in
which you just
need to get the
feelings off of
your chest even
though you don't
think it's likely
that your
relationship is ever
going to be
anything more
than platonic?
Take some time to
really get a good
grasp on why you
are interested in
sharing this with
your friend at the
current time. Work
through your
thoughts in a
journal or talk to a
counselor to
explore the
motivating you to
share these
feelings and make
a thought-through
decision about
whether to
proceed or to
leave things as
they are.
If you've decided
that you are
indeed going to tell
your friend that
you're in love, you
should prepare
emotionally for the
ramifications of
that. You should
consider what
might happen to
your life if your
friend decides that
he/she doesn't
share your
feelings and
doesn't want to be
as close to your for
awhile after the
revelation. Think
carefully about
what you will do to
protect yourself in
this situation. This
includes creating a
support network
of other friends
and loved ones
who can spend
time with you if
this happens. Of
course, you're
hoping that this
isn't the end result
of your revelation,
but you should
prepare for it
anyway, just in
case. You don't
want to be left
with no best friend
after the
conversation has
taken place.
You should also
think about what
you want from
your friend. Being
able to clearly
articulate that is
going to make the
conversation go
more smoothly.
Just revealing your
feelings for your
friend to deal with
can be shocking
and overwhelming
to the friend. But if
you have a plan in
mind and know
what you want,
you give your
friend the chance
to make a decision
without being so
Know what you
want in case the
friend shares the
feelings and what
you want in case
he/she doesn't.
For example, you
may want to
proceed to a
relationship if
those feelings are
shared but to
discontinue the
friendship entirely
if they are not.
Alternatively, you
may want to
spend more time
developing your
relationship if the
feelings are
shared but would
be content to stay
friends as is if not.
Know what you
want so you can
tell your friend
when the
takes place.
Finally, you'll need
to tell your friend,
of course. You
should pick an
appropriate time
and setting for
doing so. Don't just
burst out with
your emotions one
day as your having
a quick lunch
before returning
to the office. Make
sure that you have
the time and
privacy for a
about the topic. If
you feel like it's
better done in a
public place, go for
coffee or dinner.
Otherwise do it in
the comfort of one
of your homes. Be
clear and honest in
about your
emotions. Let the
other person know
what you are
feeling and what
you want to
happen from here
on out. Then wait
and see what he/
she has to say.
You might be
surprised to find
that these
feelings were
shared all along
and your friend
just didn't know
how to tell you!

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