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Help For
Pornography Addicts
If either you or a loved one has
become addicted to
pornography, there is help
available. You DO NOT have to
continue in slavery to
pornography! Yes, you are a
slave. You just think you are free
to do as you will, but the nature
of addiction is absolute
enslavement. There is no
freedom.
This first section will deal with
my own advice regarding this
addiction to the addict. The
second section will have a host
of services that can help you.
Some of the helps listed here are
counseling services,
accountability and content
monitoring software services or
self-help books. I am not paid to
recommend ANY of these.
If you are a Christian, you must
begin with the realization that
ANY addiction, by it's very nature,
is your god. You have another
god before the true God, I AM.
You cannot serve God and your
addiction. The addiction controls
you. It doesn't matter whether
that addiction is to some kind of
drug, nicotine, alcohol or other
physical addiction, or whether it
is strictly and emotional/mental
addiction such as pornography.
Whatever it is, it is your god. It
tells you what to do and when to
do it. You can't be full of that
addiction and full of the Spirit.
What may have begun as a
simple sin or failing is now your
full-blown lord. I think that lack
of this realization may be a great
hinderance to getting past any
behavior associated with the
addiction. Realization,
confession and repentence of
the original sin problem needs to
come first. If you are REALLY
serious about getting free,
everything written here will be
helpful to any addiction.
"Wisdom is knowing reality and
adjusting yourself to it"
(1) Tell someone you trust about
the addiction. The power of sin
is in its darkness. When sin is
brought out into the light, it loses
a lot of steam. The best idea is to
enlist an accountability partner
with whom you will promise to
be honest. The Word of God tells
us that we need to confess our
sins not just to the Lord, but to
each other. If you are married,
you need to make confession to
your spouse. If you are a minor,
you need to confess to your
parents. Whoever has been
wronged by your actions needs a
confession. That brings up
another issue: is pornography a
victimless problem?
(2) Pornography is not
victimless. The addict is the first
victim. I will discuss that in more
detail below. Spouses are
victims. If married, you have left
the sanctity of the marital vows.
What? Just by looking. Un huh.
Jesus said that the sin has been
committed when the mind is
engaged, remember? The action
is just the result of the actual sin.
If unmarried, you have already
cheated your future mate. All
matters regarding our sexuality
were created for a two-fold
purpose within marriage. One is
for procreation. The other is for
a sort of bond or cement to the
marriage vows. God's Word is
clear on His created purpose for
human sexuality. There are clear
boundaries. Going against the
created purpose of the universe
is butting one's head against
reality. There WILL be
consequences. Just like in an
athletic game, staying within the
boundaries allows you to not
only keep playing, but to win.
Those who continually go out of
bounds either get sidelined or
lose. They will never be happy or
find any joy in it. Love is not a
feeling, but a daily act of
commitment to the well-being of
the beloved. By its very nature
addiction to porn is a self-
centered, self-absorbed way of
life. It's all about you. That was
not God's intent for marital love
and commitment.
(3) Pornography is based purely
on fantasy. Reality can never
match the fantasy. Again, one is
living against reality here. There
will be an escalating desire for
the fantasy to become reality.
Eventually escalation becomes
necessary. Pornography acts like
heroin on the brain. The viewer
may start off with very mild porn,
but that will cease to excite. They
will slowly move into harder
forms. When that ceases to
excite, some form of acting out
will happen. It's all about
choosing reality over fantasy. The
reality is fairly dull. This is why so
many are disappointed in
marriage. Porn addicts are
inordinately affected with this
issue because the fantasy has
become an alternative reality that
can and will never be true.
(4) The problem is not in your
hormones or your body, but the
enemy struggling for control of
your mind. The Apostle Paul, in
his letter to the Church in Rome,
made a statement that is little
heeded in our pleasure oriented,
self-centered world. He said (this
is from the NIV translation), "Do
not be conformed to the pattern
of this world, but be
TRANSFORMED by the renewing
of your MIND." This is not a quick
fix.


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